Which one scares you more: darkness or light?

The fear of the dark is a common fear among children and to a varying degree is observed for adults. I believe almost everybody has experienced the feel of fear in a dark place. The fuel for the fear of dark is human’s imagination. Everything in dark appears to be something else. People make things as scary as their imagination allows them in dark and this is just because of the lack of the vision. An interesting point of this kind of fear: Do you think if you have a full vision in a bright day and see a dragon you imagined last night in the dark, you would be as scared as last night? I don’t think so. This makes me think that limited or lack of vision is scary in nature.
However, let’s look at the other side of this coin. Sometimes, despite of the fear of dark, you prefer to stay in the dark because the truth is scarier than what you can imagine. You try to picture things that are not facts not to face the reality.
Unfortunately, this is what is going on in our world right now. We do not want to look, listen, and learn the facts. Why? because we do not want to accept the responsibility of knowing the truth. Because it is so easy to say "I did not know"!

Some try to get out of the dark and others, who I am jealous of, turn the light on for others as well. Now it is your turn!

Change

“Change” is defined as:
1. To cause to be different
2. To go from one phase to another
3. To put on a different clothing
I could probably list other meanings for this word because there are so many cases that we use the word “change”. In addition, the usage of this word varies by the situation and from one person to another. Sometimes people consider a certain behavior or situation as “changed” while others may disagree. However, I believe we all agree that we should observe or sense difference(s) comparing two states to realize a change.
Change is inevitable in nature and specifically in human’s life. In fact, without change we are not alive. I want to differentiate various changes in human’s life based on my perspective of life. First, there are changes because of the human’s nature. Certain rules are imposed to human’s life because he is a live species: he is born someday, ages by time and eventually dies. I think these are important changes, yet so natural that we should just try to adapt ourselves. The more interesting change is the one that we decide to make it happen based on reasoning (hopefully). This category of changes is the day to day struggle of human’s life. That is exactly why you see some people always avoid change because first they are not wise and courageous enough to go through decision making process and also not strong enough to face the consequences of the change. On the other hand, you see many people who fails because they do not think before they act. In summary, a change must have the followings: 1) a reason, 2) a plan, 3) execution process, and finally 4) adaptation plan. I would say missing one of the four elements leaves you a bad memory.
After the above introduction, I want to discuss “change” from political point of view in our country Iran. We have a long history of changes: good and bad. Some of them were outstanding like nationalizing oil while some others were disasters like choosing a person as president with absolutely zero knowledge of running a small community, let alone a vast country like Iran. As far as my age and knowledge allows, we have been told that this is going to “change”! But I think what they are referring to is the third meaning of the word “change”. Honest to God, have you seen an event or behavior which leaves you the impression of real change? Of course, I have noticed many but unfortunately in the wrong direction. We are going through many changes leading our great nation to a swamp. This means when we get there, the more we try to get out, the less we succeed. I am hearing many slogans these days about major changes in the foundations. Are you kidding me? Are we that stupid to believe these statements? This is the way that a dictatorship presented as democracy works: they tight and loose the string around people necks. My beloved father always told me that “The donkey has not been changed, they just replaced the saddle”!
However, I believe some minor changes in the right direction could lead to major ones. So we cannot miss any opportunity to turn this ship around. Unfortunately, even those who sense the reason for change, do not have a plan or if they do, they do not stick to it. Not having a good execution team is another weakness. The worst part, I think, is how they want people to adjust to the change. A decision is made over night, executed tomorrow morning and people are expected to adopt and accept the change by the afternoon. I think this is the way they want to rule not only the country but also the world. What a nice management we have!

Rightness or Peace?

This was the title of my discussion with my wife last night. What would you do if you had to start a war (cold or hot, it does not matter) to show people the rightness? Obviously, you might be wrong and it may take lives to prove that.
My question is pretty clear: assuming you know the truth, do you think you have the right to break the peace to unveil the rightness and stop people from doing wrong?

Wave

I assume you have heard of wave before. Wave, right! The thing that goes up and down to carry something around. This phenomenon is the root cause of everything that happens in this world. Waves live in different kinds like light and sound. They also have different characteristics such as visibility, length, frequency and so on.

Waves impact every one of us every day. Maybe you do not care if seismic waves can reshape the planet Earth surface or cause earthquakes in deep ocean, but I bet you, you do care that waves can make you happy, sad, excited, and sometimes desperate. Believe me; they can change your climate instantly. Am I dreaming?! Not really. Waves are the most important means of communication in this world, and maybe I should have said the only one (Sorry, I cannot confirm this for other worlds, but I suppose there would be some other sort of waves). You’ve probably heard someone laughing or crying, or seen a fantastic scenery which amazed you. You can see where I am going with this, right? My point is our life without waves is like a black screen. The unfortunate is you would not even know this is a black screen, just a complete non-sense life.

I think we are now clear about the role of this THING in our life. I said waves are the cause for everything in this world, but I must admit that they are not responsible. We are! We create those creatures to make our life better or more miserable. A man who screams the war order to kill thousands or a man who announces a campaign for saving lives in African villages they both use waves to accomplish something.

I am not sure if you have ever noticed a special kind of wave which is totally different from other types in nature, but with the same characteristics and much stronger power and impact. I call this type “People Wave”. Looking briefly at the world history, we realize the fact that whenever human life has changed, positively or negatively, it was the impact of a people wave; people who decided to improve or destroy their lives. Now, wherever there is a need for change, people should start the wave to make the change happen.

Two essentials of the people wave, like all other types of wave, are having more than one particle (we are really particles in this world by the way!) involving in the wave movement and steadiness of the movement. Consider a water drop who wants to create a tsunami. It is going to vapor and the big ocean full of drops does not even care a bit. They just sit motionless and emotionless and say ”what a pity! He was a nice dude. Oh, who was that by the way?!” Nice try. You just killed yourself for nothing, who cares? Who cares if you wanted to show them they are drops but have the power to be a tsunami if they work together.

I’ve seen lots of people trying to change the world. Some of them had the power to reach their goals to some extent. For those who failed, or has not started yet, I want to give a suggestion: do not fly too high because the body that packed your parachute might have not flown before. Start slowly and try to develop your idea to reach the point that you have powerful support. I respect the fact that they want to change things that human has been suffering, but they should know that one hand cannot clap!

I deeply believe in the word of holy Qur’an that says nothing changes unless the people want to.

Lose it or Loose it?

I've been telling myself since last night: it would not be a lost, look at it in a good way, look what you’ve gained, you are not going to lose them... just scrambling around and talking to myself. This feeling may be familiar to you. The world is not going to be in your favor forever. You get used to someone or something and one day you have to give it up: a friend, a job, a life, or even a habit. Here, specifically, I am talking about relationships.
I've been always scared of losing ones that I love or I feel a strong connection to. But you cannot stop others moving. So the big question which leads your reaction and post event life is "Am I going to lose it or loose it?". The answer totally depends on the situation of course, but it is also impacted by the strength of the relationship and your party as well. Sometimes it is the end of story when you cannot see your party for ever (like last year when I lost my father), and sometimes you hope to see them, but not that often. I think human acts interestingly in the first case: he almost keeps his relationship in the form of memories, but nothing to be worried or scared of anymore. In the second situation, he is loosing the connection string. This is even a tougher task because he cannot see the other end of the string anymore. He is always scared of the day his party or something (specially the time) cuts the string.

I am not kind of a guy who establishes a relationship (or strong friendship) very quickly, because I see heavy duties and responsibilities when crossing some lines to get closer to someone. So, it is a big bang for me to lose one or loose a relationship. I always come up with the same solution in such situations (It seems I forget it every time and I have to spend a night or two over and over again). Do not let the string decay over time; polish it, use some EVOO (Extra Virgin Olive Oil) once in a while to shine and jazz it up. Do not let an old Persian quote come true: “Az Del Beravad Har Anke Az Dide Beraft” (rough English equivalent: relationships get lost when people get out of your sight).

Do you want to make everyone believe what you think it is true?

Your friend is giving you a ride on a dark road. You believe that there is a bridge on your way that has been damaged by flood. Considering the car speed and the road condition, you warn your friend that you are going to die passing the bridge. Unlike you, your friend believes that the bridge is totally fine and there is nothing to worry about. Now it is time for a big decision: you either take the control of the car (this may need some force) and chose another road or gently ask your friend to stop the car and let you get off. What would you do?